Why Breastfeeding Can Hurt, and When It Shouldn’t

Breastfeeding is often described as “natural,” but that doesn’t mean it’s always comfortable, especially in the early days. Many parents are told to expect some soreness at first, which can make it hard to know when pain is normal and when it’s a sign that something needs attention.

Here’s the key takeaway: breastfeeding may feel tender initially, but ongoing or intense pain is not something you should have to push through.

What’s Considered Normal Early On?

In the first few days postpartum, it’s common to experience:

• Mild nipple tenderness as your body adjusts

• Sensitivity during initial latching that improves as the feed continues

• Temporary discomfort that lessens day by day

This type of tenderness should improve, not worsen.

Overcome Painful Breastfeeding

When Breastfeeding Pain Isn’t Normal

Pain may be a sign that something needs adjusting if you’re experiencing:

• Sharp, pinching, or burning pain during feeds

• Cracked, bleeding, or blistered nipples

• Pain that lasts the entire feeding or continues afterward

• Increasing discomfort instead of gradual improvement

Pain is information. It’s your body’s way of saying, “Something isn’t quite working yet.”

Common Causes of Breastfeeding Pain

The most frequent reasons pain shows up include:

• A shallow or unstable latch

• Positioning that places pressure on the nipple

• Tension in baby’s jaw, neck, or body

• Feeding patterns that don’t support effective milk removal

None of these mean you’re doing anything wrong, and all of them are fixable with the right support.

Why Early Support Matters

When pain goes unaddressed, parents often shorten feeds, delay feedings, or feel discouraged altogether. Getting support early can:

• Improve comfort quickly

• Protect milk supply

• Build confidence

• Make feeding feel sustainable instead of stressful

How Virtual Lactation Support Helps

As an RN and international board certified lactation consultant (IBCLC), I work with families virtually to assess feeding in real time, from the comfort of home. Virtual visits allow us to look at latch, positioning, feeding patterns, and comfort together, without the stress of packing up a newborn.

If breastfeeding hurts, you deserve answers and relief.